- As I set soaking in the tranquility of the afternoon, I’m visited by a local hummingbird. The first part of the video is in normal speed, the middle is set in slow motion, and the end returns to normal speed. I am absolutely fascinated by this creature. Every flap is done with precision in an effort to hover. In the background one can hear the steady rhythm of the summer cicadas.
- Perhaps when the video slows down, this is how the world appears and sounds to my little friend. Thus, making a little sense of time and relativity to it.
- Hope you enjoyed this quick video as much as I have. 🙂
I remember the 80’s. Social anxiety was stirred by media. It looked similar to today’s media. Skin color was the primary adjective use to describe a person. Sadly, it still is today.
Back then, as “black communities” started to pull together, media asked a simple question. “How dark does your skin need to be in order to be considered “black”?” Soon the brown paper bag became the dividing line. If a person was darker than the bag, then they were “black”. This caused a dived in the community and their unity crumbled.
How do we come together and stay together?
Stop listening to media. Turn off the radio’s and TV’s. Talk to each other. Read the news. However, while reading, skim through and filter out the opinionated comments. Keep each other informed. We should be our main source of news and events. There is so much that we can do with social media. But first, we must reboot our way of thinking. We must look beyond the chromatics of our epidermis and see the humanity in everyone.
We can do better. Dark days will come. Come as they may, we must never lose our unity. We wouldn’t abandon our children in their time of need. We need each other. As we pass each other on the walk, smile to one another. It’s contagious and the simplest form of hope. We bring flavor to this world with our creativity and inspirations.
We are a million shades of earth tone, and we paint this world beautiful. However, every shade of humanity can be found in our hearts, and we make this world beautiful.
Focus on our similarities, and embrace the constructs of humanity. We have created so much beauty. Like salt to a steak we have added to the experience of this world. This joyous truth should not be tainted.
How many ways can we divide humanity? Rich, poor, Asian, Latino, Catholic, Protestant, east-coast, west-coast, north, south, me, you. Division continues until there are only singularities. Singularities will never unite. We will never unite until we drop our differences.
The choice is ours to make. It starts with me accepting you and you accepting me. We will learn to enjoy our similarities, our common grounds. We will take this ideology to others and keep it in practice. Together we can overcome our differences.
Do you want to get married or do you want to be loved? Some of us only want marriage. Marriage can bring a sense of accomplishment. For these members its a milestone in life that needs to be crossed. For others marriage is a haven of love. They are tired of being alone, tired of not having someone to hold. They want a steady source of love and affection. They are not hopeless romantics. They are lonely and want to be loved. The third group is a combination of the first two. Marriage is something that they look forward to. They look forward to growing old with their best friend. Life for them is not marked in milestones, but they have an idea of what they want. The last group of people seem to accidentally fall into marriage. Whether because of pregnancy, finances, lottery, or whatever. These are the people we never pictured getting hitched. They just don’t fit our definition of the marrying type. But, that’s how love works. There is no single definition to love. Love is like water. It seeps into our pores and grabs us by the heart. We do not control love. For each of us love is different. This is why a single definition will not define love, but a thousand poems will come close. 🙂
Believe in yourself. You are your biggest advocate in this journey of life. When the chips are down and the world stands against you… you still have you. Be proud of who you are. If you cannot be proud of who you are then become that person. You are worth every bit of your time. Never let anyone take that away. Let go of the world but never let go of yourself. Always believe in yourself.
Imagine a room full of five year old children. Which child is in charge? Which child has authority to say who is better than whom? We as adults are very similar to these children. We are all equal. Yet, we place judgment on others everyday. We are quick to point out the faults of others. Why? Are we so insecure that we need to bring down others in order to improve our own self-stature? We constantly compare the success of others to the failure of our own. We create the illusion of inequality that constitutes our discontent. Our perception is askew due to our fear that we are being left out. This indeed is the action of a five year old.
Simply put, I have no right to judge you. There is no rebuttal to this statement. We are all on the same rock floating through space. Our time on this rock is limited. I can find plenty of constructive things to do with my time. Judging is not one of them. 🙂
We all have standards we live up to. These are the guidelines for meeting our own self-expectations. For most of us the foundation of these standards were instilled in us from our parents.
The problem with these expectations is that they are often imposed onto others. Self-expectation should remain as such. I have no right to impose my standards of living onto you. We have the freedom how to live each day. Parenting is the only exception to this. But, we are not talking about parenting.
Always take the time to improve yourself. Do not force improvement onto others. We all have our own path to take. Dictating to others how to live forces them to walk your path. Only one person should walk your path. Does this mean we should be alone? Not at all. Everyone does not take the same steps when moving about a house. The paths from room to room may be similar, however, the placement of their feet may be quite different.
If you feel that I don’t have your best interest at heart, are you really going to listen to my criticism? More than likely the answer is no. Love is constructive not destructive. Yes, changes may need to be made that might bring a destructive appearance. However, it is the end results that matter. A garden is not made without first tearing up the soil. With that in mind, how many times have we thought back to our childhood and remembered the lessons we neglected to listen to. If we had the foresight then to see why our parents said what they did, I’m sure our attitude would have been different.
The opinion of a stranger weighs less than the opinion of a friend. If you do have to throw criticism towards someone be professional, encouraging, and ensure that they understand that you care about them. Never focus on the negative. Rather, focus on the bright side of the situation. Anyone can complain about the bad. It takes discipline to change that focus and constructively criticize someone in a manner that they feel better knowing that you took the time to express you concerns. We are all human. We demand to be treated as such. 🙂
Just because I feel a certain way about a person does not mean they will feel that way towards me. The word relationship comes from the base word relate. Two people must be able to relate to each other, in a possitive manner, in order for there to be a constructive relationship. Even then there is no guarantee that love will coexist between the two. We must be willing to admit this fact. Love does not alway work the way that we want it to.
This is why it is said love is unconditional. It is not reciprocated back to us due to our actions. It is given back out of free will. Honestly, I would have it no other way 🙂
I have a friend who is like a brother to me. When my wife and I were stationed in Norfolk he spent some time with us. I’m not going to say I’m the easiest person to live with. I do have my moments of not being a good host. However, this guy had a way of making a bad situation hilarious. His favorite thing to do when I got aggravated at him was spread his arms in a hugging fashion and sing the Judds song “Love can build a bridge” in a horrible off key manner. No matter how many times he did it I always seemed to join in singing and got over my aggrevation. To this day if I get upset or irritated, I sing that song to myself.
Love really does matter. No one wins from holding a grudge. Although it took me awhile to learn this, I’m glad I did.
I am not in favor of using the word “hate” when it comes to describing my emotions towards others. Truth is I don’t hate individuals. We are all capable of change. I have found that most people that I don’t like aren’t bad people. We just have different views. I have learnt to respect the views of others without expecting that respect in return. I will not demand respect. I will earn it. This mindset has allowed me to see eye to eye with a lot of people that I didn’t get along with.
Its OK to disagree. It is not OK to disrespect others because of their views or opinions.