Search for the meaning of Life… or is it Love.

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The Meaning Of Love

Life is chaotic. There is no rhyme or reason as to why things happen. It just does. We try to orchestrate life. We categorize this and that. We stack, inventory, and clean this world up. We even place laws into effect, just to keep order. But at the end of the day we still cannot perfectly predict the weather for next Tuesday. We had no idea that we would accidently run a red light while we rushed to work. Who could have predicted the other traffic would be so eager to go when they had the green light? One car wreck later, and we realize just how messy life can be. Love is exactly like that. It’s messy, chaotic, and awesome.

People have always searched for the meaning of life. I’ve always seen this as a false search. What they should be searching for is the meaning of love. Life and love have a symbiotic relationship. It is impossible to have one without the other. Love is kind, humble, jealous, and protective. Love is the fire in the soul that gives us passion. Love is more contagious than the common cold. It starts of slow and warm. The more we feed it the bigger it grows, until one day we notice that we no longer need to feed the fire. Once love matures, it fuels itself. Love cannot be hidden. A person that loves, will express love in everything that they do. Every life that they touch will be effected.

Love is so precious. Alfred Lord Tennyson is quoted as saying “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” The pain of a love lost is one of the most top pains, in life, we will ever endure. So why do we pursue love if it can cause so much pain? The answer can be found in the joy and the happiness that love brings. Even medically speaking, a person in love will be happier and less sick than a person that is not in love.   So, I implore you not to search for the meaning of life, but rather the meaning of love. For they are the same.

Thanks for taking the time to read, and may we always find the meaning of love.

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Fighting the monster named Worry

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Worry is a monster that will drag the soul through hell. We often fret over things that we cannot control. The thoughts of “what if” plague our minds. Why do we worry? Is this some self preservation mechanism? Or, is this a bad habit that we have developed over time? To answer these questions we need to get to the root of the problem. Sometime when we worry about a situation it is due to the fact that we oppose the possible outcome that is about to transpire. Most of the time the situations we fret over have negative impact on our current standing. We would love for that not to happen.

When faced with a problem, ask these questions. Let’s say we forgot to file a very important report that may cost the company a huge client. What is the worst possible outcome? Identify the hazards, and determine the worst one. “I may get fired.”  Can I avoid it? “It” refers to the worst case. This is a simple yes or no question. Always assume the answer is yes. How?  Make a list of things that can be done. Rank them from most effective to least effective. In this scenario we could just go to the personnel needing the report and be honest. Letting them know will afford them time to prepare for the consequences. In doing so it would be wise to state our corrective actions. Another option may be as simple as reprinting the report and getting the signatures needed. What can I do to soften the impact? We should always expand on our plan. Ask yourself what else can be done in conjunction with your preparation.  Accept your fate. In order to have a clear head we must stop worrying. It is impossible to worry and think productively at the same time. Take ownership of the situation and responsibility for your action. No matter what the outcome is, we should be proud that we did our best to improve our situation. Even if that means we get fired. Getting fired only affords us a chance to find a better job.

Stay positive. Sometime a fender bender can bring a new client. Our attitude says a lot about who we are. Always ask “Is our action professional?” With discipline, we can learn to not display anger. Yes, we’re mad. Yes, it’s an inconvenience to our plans. But, what if that moment of inconvenience brought us a golden opportunity? Imagine if your actions enlightened others to be the same way. Even if it was 1 person out of 100, aren’t they worth the time and effort. I know I am, and you are too.

Remember to stay calm, stay positive, and stop worrying. This is a huge step in overcoming obstacles in order to maintain our happiness.

Thanks for taking the time to read, and my we always have a clear head to see the silver lining.

A Universal Law that Always Leads to Happiness.

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Our actions will always be multiplied back to us. This is a universal law that will never be broken. However, if we commit a deed with the expectation of recognition, then we have received our reward. We must be true in our actions. We cannot afford to have any tricks, or deception. But, if we are true, then our deeds will come back to us multiplied. How? Think of it as planting a seed. If we plant a seed, that seed will mature into a plant that will bare seeds. Those seeds represent our deeds.

With that in mind, we should understand good deeds will not come back to us quickly. It takes time for a plant to grow and produce seed. We should help those around us that need help. Hug those that need a hug. Give a kind greeting to strangers. Be patient with the elderly. We will be there one day, and we will want other to be patient with us. Refrain from anger. Walk away if you can’t show love. There are time that I have to walk away. We all have those moments. It’s what we do in that moment that means the most.

We should take the time to allow others to help us. I didn’t understand this for a long time. I wanted to be the one helping. I wanted to be the support of others. But, I was selfish in my thinking. Here I was planting good deeds in others lives, but I was not willing to let others to do the same for me. When it dawned on me what I was doing, I changed immediately. I swallowed my pride and said “sure, I could use some help.” As soon as it became a standard practice of me helping other, and others helping me, my life got a lot better. My stress level went down. I was no longer carrying a burden on my shoulders. I stopped worrying how things would work out. I just knew that they would, and they did.

We control our environment, and we are a product of our environment. We choose who we let in and who we keep out. We control what messages we listen to in our music, and we control what messages we watch on TV. What fills the eyes will fill the soul. Start by doing kind deeds for yourself. This does not constitute a shopping spree. Then replicate that deed to others. Always support yourself, before trying to support others. For some this may sound selfish. I understand that. But, how can we expect to support others when we can’t support ourselves. We need to be fit, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Good deeds will come back to us, we just have to let it.

Thanks for taking the time to read, and may we always reap what we sow.

Simply Forgive and Forget.

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When was the last time someone did you wrong? How long did it take for you to forgive them? I use to be quick to anger. If something didn’t fit my paradigm world, I blew up. A lot of people got hurt because of my foolishness. Over the years I have learned the benefits of being slow to anger and quick to forgive. If I am angry, I can not be happy. Anger causes stress. Over time that stress can lead to health issues. Our own stubbornness can kill us. Happiness use to be a goal to achieve. Now, for me, it’s a life style.

It is really possible for a person to live a life of happiness. Storms will come, and they will pass. We should never dwell on the negative things in life. It will only cause trouble. I had to learn how to let by-gones be by-gones. Things of the past did not need to be brought to the present. They have already past. New things are coming our way. Every day brings something new. Everything moves forward. We make the discision of staying in the past. Learn to forgive and move on.

Thanks for reading. May we always forgive others in the manner we would want to be forgiven.

Loving myself

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As a child, I was told that I was not special. I was average. I had no special skills that set me apart from others. Surprisingly, this was not only stated by my mother but by others around me. For the longest time I believed them. This is why it was easy for me to love others, but hard to love myself.

I learned to watch people. I sat quietly and observed their actions. I came to the conclusion that they were no better than I was. I had just as much talent as the next person. In fact, we all averaged out to being equal. Nobody was anymore powerful than the next person. I was better than no one, and no one was better than I was. This became a motto that I said over and over.

I believe we are all equal. We are all human. If I am to love everyone, then I must include myself. Yes, I am humble, polite, and cordial. This does not mean that I sacrifice myself at the expense of others. I noticed, as I changed, some around me were upset at my actions. They voiced their thoughts, asking why I was giving myself such attention. “I deserve it.” was my reply, and I do. We all do. I implore you to set as much time for yourself, as you do for others. That balance is important.

As I get older I find myself being more happy. Satisfaction comes easier. It may have something to do with the fact that my expectations are lower. But, I’d like to think that the time I set aside for myself helps me find my own happiness. I’m able to focus on myself. This is the time that I define my desire, write them down, and conspire on making that desire a reality. I tell myself that I am worth the time that I invest into myself. We all are. Love everyone without neglecting yourself.

Thanks for reading, and may we always find time for ourselves.