Learning Acceptance Is More Than Tolerance

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We, as humans, are so different. We come from different walks of life and have experienced so many adventures. I am not like you, and you are not like me. In a world where being judgmental is a normality, how would one go about sizing everyone up?

It is not our place to judge others. Once we start judging others, we now have a standard for ourselves to be measured against. This is an inescapable fact of life. Sadly, people will never fully measure up to our expectations. Which is ironic in that we rarely measure up to their expectations. It is impossible to please everyone. Try as we may,  people will be disappointed in us.

This is why it is important not to be judgmental. It’s a hard habit to break.  However, it should be done. What values do we want others to measure us up by? Maybe it’s our actions. For others it may be hygiene and appearance. Or maybe we chose not to place any measurement on anyone.

What would this world be like if we didn’t judge each other? What would be the consequences of having total acceptance? Change starts with a deviation of one variable. I have spent the last two years changing how I look at others. What I’ve noticed is the change in how others look at me. The more I accepted others, the more acceptance others had for me.

Tolerance is what I have when I put up with others actions or words. In order to tolerate someone, I do not have to agree with them. It is only a step towards acceptance. These two words are very different. I have to do more than tolerate someone if I am to accept them.

In the end we all want to be happy. Acceptance is a step towards that happiness.


3 thoughts on “Learning Acceptance Is More Than Tolerance

    DailyMusings said:
    April 13, 2016 at 5:08 am


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    manette jen mcdermott said:
    April 13, 2016 at 7:21 am

    Love this. Acceptance is the concept that “it is what it is” , there is no desire to change the other to be anything other t judging whatsoever and comes from the heart, there is harmony and peace in acceptance, tolerance is more like keeping my mouth shut but having judgemental
    thoughts; acceptance is having a quiet mind and listening and actually understanding the other person. Is that true? I relate to the way you think Steve. Thank you!

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      stevenjcurtis responded:
      April 13, 2016 at 9:16 am

      Allowing ourselves to sympathize or, at minimal, empathize with each other opens a door for understanding. This understanding leads to acceptance. I have many friends with different religious views. We may not agree on everything, however we accept each others basic fundamentals. Taking the time to listening is huge step in acceptance 🙂

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