Children are great. They’re annoying, loud, destructive and expensive. Any parent that says different is in denial. But they are our children. It’s the miracle of watching them develop into adults that makes all of the bad seem alright. We watch them struggle through their failures. We encourage them to keep trying until they finally look at us and say “I did it!”
That sense of pride is one of the best feelings in the world.
I will not have children. My wife and I are not able to. People have said that we should adopt, see a doctor, or my favorite seek counseling. People can be so repugnant at times. My wife and I have been afforded the opportunity to live life without children. We are the happiest couple that you will ever meet. It isn’t because we don’t have children. It’s because we have had time to focus on each other. Children get in the way of that. They need that attention. We will neglect our spouses to tend to our children’s wants and needs. This is the reality of being a responsible parent.
“You don’t understand. You don’t have children.” A lot of people have told me this. I cannot explain how callus these words are. Rude and uncouth begins the description. I love my life. And my comprehension skills are better than most. I console people everyday. Those that put too much on their plate need someone like me “who wouldn’t understand.” Most people couldn’t comprehend being 40 something with no children. Imagine having 19 years to get to know someone. As life changes, they change as well. We both have changed and grown together.
Sure, children are great, but not having children is great as well. So if you know a couple that don’t have children, don’t encourage them to have children. Allow them to enjoy each other. I have never tried to encourage a parent to sell their children to the gypsies.
OBTW gypsies are great people and they don’t buy children 🙂