We all have standards we live up to. These are the guidelines for meeting our own self-expectations. For most of us the foundation of these standards were instilled in us from our parents.
The problem with these expectations is that they are often imposed onto others. Self-expectation should remain as such. I have no right to impose my standards of living onto you. We have the freedom how to live each day. Parenting is the only exception to this. But, we are not talking about parenting.
Always take the time to improve yourself. Do not force improvement onto others. We all have our own path to take. Dictating to others how to live forces them to walk your path. Only one person should walk your path. Does this mean we should be alone? Not at all. Everyone does not take the same steps when moving about a house. The paths from room to room may be similar, however, the placement of their feet may be quite different.