What if this was the only thing in life we had to do? Just be happy. This would mean we would not complain, gripe, grumble, moan, or gossip. We would not cause drama, nor would we participate in drama. We would simply enjoy life. Some people use medication or alcohol to reach this state of mind. What if we could live like this without medication or alcohol?
Addicted to pain.
Children are naturally happy. Why? What makes them enjoy life so much? I have witnessed two kids fighting and arguing and in five minutes playing and having the best time of their life together. How is this possible? Don’t they remember the fight that they just had? Of course they do. Unlike adults, children simply let go of negativity. They do not hold on to drama. They do not search for revenge or resolution. For them, the resolution lies in moving on.
We, as adults, often search for resolution. We want others to hurt as we did. We want to teach them a lesson. Obviously their parents didn’t teach them, someone needs to. Once we have taught them a lesson someone else comes around, and they need to be taught as well. We start looking at “what’s wrong” with people instead of what’s right. We find ourselves addicted to drama. We need to fix the problem. If there is no problem to fix then we are not needed. We need to be needed.
Outside looking in.
How many compliments do we give in one day? I’m talking about serious compliments; not the casual ones. How many times a day do we tell our spouse that we love them? Do we spend our time complaining about the idiots around us? Are we always in a rush? Do we have time for others? Do we feel that the world is against us?
Life is 100% perception. Our life is good or bad depending on how we see it. When we focus on the good, our life is good. When we focus on the bad, our life is bad. For the most part, children do not focus on the bad. Yes, they address it, but they move on as well. We would be wise to relearn this lesson. Life is too short to stay focused on the negativity.
So, what would it take to just be happy? What would allow us to focus on the “good in life”? Do not ask “why am I angry?” or “what makes me mad”. These questions focus on negativity. We should ask “what makes me happy”. We should fix us, before trying to fix others. Be happy. It’s just that simple.
Thanks for taking the time to read, and may we always enjoy our perception of life.