Why Not

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Our actions are more important than our profits.

As younger generations come up, I hear the question “Why” a lot. Why should I help? Why should I be nice while others are mean? Why am I responsible for the actions of others? I am still asking myself that last one. “Why” is a good question when used properly. Using it directly after being given a task is not considered proper. However, one can easily state, “I don’t understand.” This statement is better received than “why”.

To understand the reason behind asking “why”, let’s take a look at what is expected. We all want to profit. If we are asked to do something and we do not see the profit in it, we will ask ourselves “why”. We need to be able to see that we are getting a reward as well as those around us. If we only see others getting rewarded, will we continue to help others while we go without a profit? This is the root of our asking why.

Not every reward is tangible. There are somethings in this world we receive that just can’t be bought. Satisfaction is one of those things. Pride is another. Have you ever got that warm feeling right after helping someone? Of course, we all have at some point. Why did you help them? Did we gain anything by helping? What did we have to show for it? This is my answer to “why”. We cannot show our profits every time. Sometimes our gains are intangible.

“What’s in it for me?” Sometimes nothing but a good feeling that we did the right thing. This is where we will have to ask ourselves, ” Is that enough? What do we gain if we are the only ones that see our reward? How will others know what we did? The more important question is “Why do we care if others know what we did?” Are we so wrapped up in what others think, that we need them to know what we did? Are we worried we won’t get their approval? Is that why we are always saying “Look at me” “Hey, over here.”

We want a trophy. We want to show the world something for our hard work. In reality, trophies are for sports. Life is not a sport. It’s a journey. And in that journey we come across some of the most amazing people. We are also given opportunities to be amazing towards others. Is that not enough? Sometimes we need to learn to just be happy with ourselves. Life is not about bragging. In fact, it’s the opposite. The meaning of life is love. Love is the one thing that brings us all together. It allows us to overcome our differences and work as one. Love is selfless. We could learn a lot from love. It’s not about what I gain, it’s about what I do. This is what matters most in life. So ask me why, and I will reply “Why not?”

Thanks for taking the time to read, and may we always seek the answer to “why”.


7 thoughts on “Why Not

    drewthewarden said:
    August 7, 2015 at 6:32 am

    Reblogged this on growth of the warden.


    ShethP said:
    August 7, 2015 at 6:42 am

    Great read. I especially appreciate the fact that you touched upon the idea of acceptance – why we need others to know what we did. It’s a subconscious feeling and the need to make people realize the good in you has a kind of negative effect. Doesn’t it belie the entire concept of imparting good into the world? Anyway, I’ve been a victim to that feeling multiple times, but it takes conscious efforts to tell yourself that it’s the action and not the appreciation or recognition that matters. But then again, how far is that true? How many people would continue to impart good, if they were never appreciated? Isn’t appreciation a sort of motivation to keep moving on the right track? A majority of humans crave to be recognized and appreciated. How is that wrong? Why is that wrong? As much as I want to completely agree with the reasoning that rewards shouldn’t be the determining factor of your actions, I cannot help but give in to the opinion that they do play an invisible role in determining our actions. I don’t know where exactly I’m going with this, but hey, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Definitely an interesting topic to ponder upon!


      stevenjcurtis responded:
      August 7, 2015 at 7:39 am

      Well stated. I’m more for appreciation than reward. 🙂

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        ShethP said:
        August 7, 2015 at 12:28 pm

        Isn’t appreciation a form of reward? 🙂 Hmm. 😀

        Liked by 1 person

        stevenjcurtis responded:
        August 7, 2015 at 1:57 pm

        I’ve never considered it in that manner 🙂


    Opher said:
    August 7, 2015 at 1:07 pm

    Sometimes the answer to why is ‘to make things better for everyone else!’

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