The power to make change is in each of us. We also contain the ability to change. Although both may sound the same, they are very different. One pertains to our environment while the other is directed at us personally. If we watch media, we are told that it takes everyone to make change. “Let’s band together.” it will say. Sure, that sounds good, but it’s a false hope. We can join an organization and volunteer to help clean up the city, perform neighborhood watches, and various other changes. But the change that media will make false promises on are the political ones. Media will also tell us that we can change who we are, then turn around and try to sell us a product. Really? Since when do I need to spend money to change? We are taught that information is worth money. This is only true if there is a seller and a buyer. All of my posts are written in a free manner. I am not selling anything. If a person only reads these posts then they will get something out of it. If they meditate on one post a day, they will get much more. I am not media. I have nothing to sell. Change resides in each of us.
As you have probably gathered, I am not an advocate for media. I don’t even watch the news. Being in the Navy has opened my eyes to what media does. They only present things that stir negative emotions. This is not news. This is media. Media will tell us to band together. Let’s have a peaceful protest. While media suggests that we should to this it will also show pictures and videos meant to enrage us. If a people are filled with hate and discontent, what is the likelihood of a peaceful protest. Thanks to media, the protest has failed before has started. But, one person can change their environment. Do we greet people with a smile? When is the last time that we opened a door for someone? Did we see some trash in the hall and not pick it up? We left it for someone else didn’t we? So did the person in front of us, and the person front of them. If something is out of place, fix it. Or, if we can’t fix it, get someone who can. If there is a light out in a common area at work, let the building facility manager know. Be professional about it. Remember, the only time a person speaks to a building facility manager is when something is wrong. Sure, these are “little” things. But little things add up quickly. I control my environment. We control our environment.
Now for self change. If there were 12 things that you could change what would they be? I could have asked for only one thing, but we have a habit of not being satisfied with ourselves. We don’t look like this or we don’t look like that. Here’s a pill to make you lose that extra five pounds. OMG change your hair color and change your life. Now about those 12 things, make a list. How many are about our looks? How many are about how we act? Are we more concerned about how others perceive us, as oppose to how we treat others? As a rule, we should always work on our inner-self before working on our appearance. What good is a wax job on a car that has a broken engine? Set goals, and stick to them. Seriously, stick to your goals. Don’t change them half way through. Let’s say that I want to lose five pounds. Would it make sense to change it to ten before I lost the original five? Make small goals and make them precise. Setting a goal of being nicer is a good goal, but what does that mean exactly? In what manner do we want to be nicer? At what point would we consider ourselves to be nicer? At one point I wanted to be nicer, but found that I didn’t know how to be nicer. This may sound obtuse, but it was true. I was an angry person. It’s hard to be nice when you’re angry. So, I had to set a goal of being less angry, then less angry again, and even less angry again. Baby steps is how I got over being angry. I still get upset, but rarely do I get angry. I learnt to deal with my confrontations in a professional manner. This is the approach at we need to take when evaluating ourselves. By achieving small goals we set ourselves up for success. With each success comes more confidence. With more confidence come more self-pride. See where this is leading?
We are in control. We do have the power of change. Never let anyone tell you different. Change starts with us and develops towards others. We have more influence on things that we come in contact with than we realize. Have you ever felt the warmth of a child’s smile when we were having a bad day? Do you think that child really comprehends how great of an effect that smile had on us? It truly is the little things in life that matter most. We are that “little thing”. We do matter most.
Thanks for taking the time to read, and may we always see the effects that we have on our environment.