Failure is not bad.

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Success is found after our last failed atempt

Facing what we have been taught:

All too often we sell ourselves short. We tell ourselves that we can’t do this or we can’t do that. We become our biggest roadblock. In a world that preaches that we can become anything, why are we so negative when it come to ourselves? Why is it that in one single leap we go from “we can do anything” to “we can’t do it”? Are we destine to fail? Yes, we are destine to fail. We will become failures.

Growing up I was always told to stop living in a fairy tale. Life is hard and full of reality. Dreams only make us hopeful and bring disappointment. To fail was bad… really? Since when is failing bad? This is the worst thing that we can teach our children. When we fail, the only thing that we have proven is how not to do something. With each step we get closer to succeeding. Each failed attempt solidifies why we should accomplish our goals in a certain manner. Failing is not a bad thing. It means we get to try again. If we fail then, we try again and again, until we get it right. Newsflash: We are not perfect. So why do we expect our attempts to be.

Facing reality:

We focus so hard on the negative that we lose sight of the positive. We tell ourselves that we will never get it right. We give up on ourselves. If we seen someone doing that, we’d tell them to keep trying. We’d give them encouragement. We should do that for ourselves. We should be our number one supporter. Stop referring to failure as a bad thing. Even a catastrophic failure can be labeled as a catastrophic success in identifying how not to attain our goals. Maybe catastrophic success is too large of an oxymoron. In how, stop beating yourself up for not succeeding. Because, in reality, we fail when we stop trying. Failure comes when progress is abandoned before the goal is reached. Just because we have an unsuccessful attempt does not mean we failed. It means we were unsuccessful. Being unsuccessful is not the same as being a failure. Most of the times we are only unsuccessful, but we are quick to label ourselves as failures. We need to stop labeling ourselves. It’s not an easy habit to break, but it is necessary in order to find happiness, and contentment. Be proud of the progress we make. Even if that progress doesn’t reach our goal, it’s worth being proud of. Never give up. Never give in. Success comes after our last “failed” attempted.

Thank you for reading, and may we all have a catastrophically successful day.

10 thoughts on “Failure is not bad.

    Dee said:
    June 13, 2015 at 9:22 am

    Be your own best mate…one of my affirmations 😊

    Liked by 1 person

    Yusra said:
    June 13, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    Wow! Love this.

    Oh, and I want you to know that I’ve nominated you for the “Allergic to E” Challenge. It’s just a small activity to refresh your mind. It’s totally up to you. If you think it’s not beneficial then please feel free to decline. 🙂
    Here’s the link:


    onemoresean said:
    June 13, 2015 at 11:38 pm

    I just wanted to say that I really needed to read this. I strive to keep myself positive, but obviously we have our down periods. Luckily for me, I found this today. Thanks for the pick me up. 🙂 Keep up the good work.

    Liked by 1 person

    beinginspiring said:
    June 14, 2015 at 1:40 am

    Hi Steven, I admire the ideas and approaches you take about facing reality, or what is, instead of what is wished for.
    Thanks for your interest in my Blog!
    🙂 Paul

    Liked by 1 person

    butimfeelinfine said:
    June 14, 2015 at 9:20 am

    “We are not perfect. So why do we expect our attempts to be”–Love love love this.We have definitely gotten to the point where people are such nay-sayers about our dreams and goals and of course we are also our own worst critics. For every arrow pointing outward, there’s three pointing in. I think it’s imperative to note that the most valuable conversation we can have is with ourselves. I like the post- look forward to reading more 🙂


    James Bui said:
    June 14, 2015 at 11:30 pm

    I love your post. The only time that you know you are doing something worthwhile is when you’re doing something. If you don’t fail, you haven’t done anything or take any risks. I have to remind myself that often. Sometimes the environment does not promote failure, which is most at the time, sadly to say, the work place.


    Adhithi said:
    June 15, 2015 at 10:39 pm

    I love the fact that this blog is about positivity and all things good. The world needs more nice thoughts, good vibes, and love. Glad you dropped by chatterboxerr:)


    sometimes i think life is trying to kill me said:
    June 17, 2015 at 10:30 am

    thanks for writing this. monday night i left my rowing lessons deflated and sad and it’s supposed to be FUN. instead, i felt like i just wasn’t getting it. or i knew what i should be doing and couldn’t do it with the coach/coxswain right smack in my face. feeling judged and incompetent. yesterday i practiced on the erg in the gym and left elated. i put everything into action. now… if only i can do that tonight on the river… but at least i have tried harder and can go without a cloud hanging over me.


    meetabdulakeem said:
    June 17, 2015 at 11:11 am

    Reblogged this on Meet jc abdulakeem and commented:
    when we fail, we have only discovered a way that will not work


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