Facing what we have been taught:
All too often we sell ourselves short. We tell ourselves that we can’t do this or we can’t do that. We become our biggest roadblock. In a world that preaches that we can become anything, why are we so negative when it come to ourselves? Why is it that in one single leap we go from “we can do anything” to “we can’t do it”? Are we destine to fail? Yes, we are destine to fail. We will become failures.
Growing up I was always told to stop living in a fairy tale. Life is hard and full of reality. Dreams only make us hopeful and bring disappointment. To fail was bad… really? Since when is failing bad? This is the worst thing that we can teach our children. When we fail, the only thing that we have proven is how not to do something. With each step we get closer to succeeding. Each failed attempt solidifies why we should accomplish our goals in a certain manner. Failing is not a bad thing. It means we get to try again. If we fail then, we try again and again, until we get it right. Newsflash: We are not perfect. So why do we expect our attempts to be.
We focus so hard on the negative that we lose sight of the positive. We tell ourselves that we will never get it right. We give up on ourselves. If we seen someone doing that, we’d tell them to keep trying. We’d give them encouragement. We should do that for ourselves. We should be our number one supporter. Stop referring to failure as a bad thing. Even a catastrophic failure can be labeled as a catastrophic success in identifying how not to attain our goals. Maybe catastrophic success is too large of an oxymoron. In how, stop beating yourself up for not succeeding. Because, in reality, we fail when we stop trying. Failure comes when progress is abandoned before the goal is reached. Just because we have an unsuccessful attempt does not mean we failed. It means we were unsuccessful. Being unsuccessful is not the same as being a failure. Most of the times we are only unsuccessful, but we are quick to label ourselves as failures. We need to stop labeling ourselves. It’s not an easy habit to break, but it is necessary in order to find happiness, and contentment. Be proud of the progress we make. Even if that progress doesn’t reach our goal, it’s worth being proud of. Never give up. Never give in. Success comes after our last “failed” attempted.
Thank you for reading, and may we all have a catastrophically successful day.