Sometimes revenge is the answer. When I say sometimes I actually mean “At no time”. Revenge is messy business. We all have plotted on someone at some time. I’m not saying that we planned some diabolical scheme that causes total destruction. However, we have wanted to retaliate for the actions of another person, ever how small it may be. I live by the law of Karma. If I plant bad seeds I’ll harvest bad crops. If I plant good seeds and I’ll harvest good crops. This is why revenge will never work. Any wrong deed, no matter the reason, is still wrong. Thus, revenge is not for us to take. Vengeance falls under the same category. It would behoove us to focus our energy on more positive actions. I have found that most actions that were done out of malice, were done out of a rash reaction. This is why I have learned not to take people’s actions personally. Sometimes I am just an easy target. Why should I throw fuel on the fire, when most of the reaction was a misunderstanding? Children act like that. We are not children. We are professionals and we should always maintain a high level of professionalism.
Stay calm and collect. If our nerves and temper start to get the best of us, we should excuse ourselves and go cool off. A quick step outside can do wonders. Get a drink of water. Come back, and continue in a calm voice. Stop taking things personal. Things will mess up. I use to take my job personally, until I realized that I was human and I make mistakes. I do not fail. My plans may, but that’s why I set up contingency plans. It’s my system. My system does not fail because I planned for failure. To some, this may sound obtuse or outlandish but it’s how I succeed. My stress level is lower and I can maintain a calm composure easier. The idea is not to get upset.
Keep in mind that others are watching what we do. People often come up to me and ask how I stay so calm when things are so bad. By watching my actions they learn how to stay calm and they see the results of it. Trust me, when a superior is losing their cool that is not the time to lose yours. Be professional and be a mentor. I tell myself this every day. I know that I have coworkers watching and learning from my examples. It’s not hard to follow when it’s a habit and a way of life. We all have bad times; it’s how we handle it that sets us apart from others.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, and may we never waste our energy on revenge.