I have had people in my life that fit this description. Moochers is what I call them. They take whatever you give them with nothing in return. And heaven forbid you draw the line and say “That’s it!” They start belly aching about all the times they were there for you. They listened and cared, and now that means nothing? Yep, that’s what I’m saying.
A good friend works like this. I generously lend a dollar, when I see a friend needs one. When I need a dollar, if they can, they generously lend a dollar. This is a help-help relationship. A moocher will generously lend a quarter. This is a help-assist relationship. We will never profit from their friendship. I’m not just talking about monetary profits. No it’s deeper than that. We will never find happiness in their friendship. They will add to our stress and make it look as though we owe them. The smartest thing to do is rid them from our lives. It sounds mean and cold, but we are not their parents. They should stop looking for hand-outs. We moved out on our own and we support ourselves 99% of the time. We need to stop enabling them. I’d say it’s for their own good, but most of the time, they will move on looking for the next victim.
We should never sacrafice our happiness for someone else’s. Have you ever had that friend that always needed a free babysitter “for only 30 minutes”. 3 hours later you’re getting paid with a “I’m sorry”. Friend don’t use each other. Friends don’t take advantage of our kindness. If they do, they aren’t being friends.
Friendship is like a garden. We put up fences and scarecrows to keep anmals out. We pluck out the weeds and cultivate the ground. Everything is kept watered. We tend to our friendships in the same manner. We keep out those that take without helping. We support and encourage each other. We give compassion to those that need it. On the flipside are we being moochers? Are we taking advantage of others kindness?
Thank you for taking the time to read, and may we always be blessed with friends that help us as much as we help them.