People, like water, must be filtered.

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the mat at the doorShould we let anyone into our house? Of course we shouldn’t. There is a reason why the front door locks. It is common fact that not everyone has our best interest in mind. People will try to use us if we allow them. It’s as though they have their goals and their agendas and nothing outside of them reaching it matters. Some others just bring drama with them. They are always complaining about something, They are never satisfied or happy, and they are more than willing to tell you about it. And lastly, there is a group of people who love to stir the pot. They instigate and cause problems. They will give the worst advice and look down at us for not taking it. People are like water. They must be filtered.

There are different types of people that we should use extreme caution with.

  • The first group I call “head steppers”. They will push and climb all over you. They will use you for support, without ever building you up. They have one goal, to reach their goals and that’s it. They want you below them, in order to make them look better.
  • The next group of people that we should watch out for are the “drama mommas”. Don’t let the title fool you, men can fall into this category too. These are the people who seem to never be happy. They could win a million dollars and still complain about the tax on their prize. Very little positivity comes from these people.
  • And the last group that I will mention are the instigators Have you every confided in someone about a problem, and they start asking “Why do you take that from them?” or “If I were you I’d do something rash and irresponsible to get myself arrested.” OK they may not say that exactly but that’s what I hear we they give advice. It’s as though they want to see you seek revenge and cause total mayhem to someone else.

Happiness is like a vegetable garden. We don’t allow grass and weeds to grow in it. We have to cultivate and maintain our lives in order to preserve our happiness. If we allow others to dump their stress, drama, problems, or issues onto us, we will loose our happiness. Sometimes pushing those people away is the best thing we can do for them. The time that other spend with you is valuable. It is not to be taken for granted. If they cannot appreciate the time that you have dedicated to them, then they are not worth that time. For some, this may sound harsh. But, it’s the truth. I have had to do this with family members as well. I am a human being, not a door mat to be trampled on. Neither are you.

Thank you for taking the time to read, and may the people in our lives always appreciate us as much as we appreciate them.

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30 thoughts on “People, like water, must be filtered.

    amommasview said:
    May 20, 2015 at 10:02 am

    This is very well said and I love the comparison you’re making! Just a great post!

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    DailyMusings said:
    May 20, 2015 at 10:15 am

    I couldn’t agree more. So well said.

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    Johanna Rosberg said:
    May 20, 2015 at 11:33 am

    You are so right. People who don’t bring good to us don’t deserve to be with us. It’s so important to choose the right people in your surroundings in order for you to feel good and to grow.
    And, I just love how you’re comparing people to water – so clever!

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    maryloponte said:
    May 20, 2015 at 12:02 pm

    Reblogged this on mary loponte's life guide and commented:
    What a great outlook/attitude towards people in general. Great read.

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      stevenjcurtis responded:
      May 20, 2015 at 11:49 pm

      Thank you for the RB. That means a lot 🙂

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    maliafaulkner said:
    May 20, 2015 at 12:55 pm

    Reblogged this on Hi, in this blog, I am myself..

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    maliafaulkner said:
    May 20, 2015 at 12:56 pm

    This is so right!!

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    Raven Jahän said:
    May 20, 2015 at 11:39 pm

    Reblogged this on Raven Jahän.

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    hadarmeira said:
    May 21, 2015 at 5:19 am

    very well said, Steven. Thank you for writing this.

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    hadarmeira said:
    May 21, 2015 at 5:28 am

    reading about your categories of people, i could think of a type or two more of people who should seriously be avoided and are the one who squeeze happiness out of yourl ife
    .

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    Beauty By Elyse said:
    May 22, 2015 at 12:06 pm

    Very true

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    My Picks Of The Week #22 | A Momma's View said:
    May 22, 2015 at 8:57 pm

    […] Stevenjcurtis I totally agree. You need to filter people out, or let them filter themselves out… […]

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    pattyalcala said:
    May 23, 2015 at 3:58 am

    I found your blog on A Momma’s View. I like your thinking.

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    boogie53 said:
    June 1, 2015 at 7:39 pm

    When were you in my life? Seriously, I know them all. Thankfully I am also blessed with many wonderful friends. Thank you for reading my blog. Great to find another like-mind.

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    joansanusi said:
    June 1, 2015 at 9:06 pm

    Reblogged this on Joan Sanusi.

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    joansanusi said:
    June 1, 2015 at 9:09 pm

    Ŕeblogged! This is well written and so real. Tares need to be sifted from the wheat.

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    61chrissterry said:
    June 5, 2015 at 11:48 am

    Reblogged this on 61chrissterry and commented:
    This is so correct. You appear to be a person who follows a true path, what a shame all are not able or unwilling to to do so.

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      stevenjcurtis responded:
      June 5, 2015 at 12:51 pm

      Thank you for the nice words and the RB. It means a lot. 🙂

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    pollyfrank67 said:
    June 6, 2015 at 12:06 pm

    Thanks for following my blog, Steven! Polly

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    Janice Wald said:
    June 9, 2015 at 4:10 am

    Hi!
    I think I know KSBeth. You’re a funny writer. Happiness is a vegetable garden! What an analogy!
    Welcome to my blog Reflections! I am pleased to have your readership. Thank you!
    (May I ask how you found my blog? I like to know what promotional strategies work for me.) Welcome!
    Janice

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      stevenjcurtis responded:
      June 9, 2015 at 5:06 am

      I found your blog by surfing tags. 100% chance. I’m glad that you were able to find humor in my writings. I believe that we all need a chuckle from time to time. Cheers 🙂

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    Unathi K. said:
    June 10, 2015 at 1:46 am

    I couldn’t agree more. This is so true. Thanks for the advice and for following my blog.

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    beinginspiring said:
    June 12, 2015 at 11:35 pm

    Thanks for visiting my Blog. We are kindred spirits

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      beinginspiring said:
      June 13, 2015 at 6:03 pm

      I believe I discovered your Blog after you commented on mine. We are destined to extend the hand of friendship to many who have been “left handed 🙂 Thanks for being there! Paul

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    Opher said:
    July 2, 2015 at 5:29 am

    I love it – Opher from Opher’s World.
    I let everyone in. They can say what they like. I might shock some of them. I might learn something from them or them from me. I don’t get upset easy and I love an argument.

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