Should we let anyone into our house? Of course we shouldn’t. There is a reason why the front door locks. It is common fact that not everyone has our best interest in mind. People will try to use us if we allow them. It’s as though they have their goals and their agendas and nothing outside of them reaching it matters. Some others just bring drama with them. They are always complaining about something, They are never satisfied or happy, and they are more than willing to tell you about it. And lastly, there is a group of people who love to stir the pot. They instigate and cause problems. They will give the worst advice and look down at us for not taking it. People are like water. They must be filtered.
There are different types of people that we should use extreme caution with.
- The first group I call “head steppers”. They will push and climb all over you. They will use you for support, without ever building you up. They have one goal, to reach their goals and that’s it. They want you below them, in order to make them look better.
- The next group of people that we should watch out for are the “drama mommas”. Don’t let the title fool you, men can fall into this category too. These are the people who seem to never be happy. They could win a million dollars and still complain about the tax on their prize. Very little positivity comes from these people.
- And the last group that I will mention are the instigators Have you every confided in someone about a problem, and they start asking “Why do you take that from them?” or “If I were you I’d do something rash and irresponsible to get myself arrested.” OK they may not say that exactly but that’s what I hear we they give advice. It’s as though they want to see you seek revenge and cause total mayhem to someone else.
Happiness is like a vegetable garden. We don’t allow grass and weeds to grow in it. We have to cultivate and maintain our lives in order to preserve our happiness. If we allow others to dump their stress, drama, problems, or issues onto us, we will loose our happiness. Sometimes pushing those people away is the best thing we can do for them. The time that other spend with you is valuable. It is not to be taken for granted. If they cannot appreciate the time that you have dedicated to them, then they are not worth that time. For some, this may sound harsh. But, it’s the truth. I have had to do this with family members as well. I am a human being, not a door mat to be trampled on. Neither are you.
Thank you for taking the time to read, and may the people in our lives always appreciate us as much as we appreciate them.