What makes a day “good” or “bad”? How is it some people can go through an event and have a great time while others are doomed to have a bad time? I do believe the word is perception. Our perception of an event determines our attitude towards it. Our attitude determines whether we liked the event or not. That means that our attitude determines whether or not we have a “good” or “bad” day.
If this is true, then all I have to do is maintain a good attitude and I will always be happy. Right? There is no simple yes or no to this answer. When we experience bad times we go through stress. Stress can be good or stress can be bad. Good stress has a positive effect on our lives while bad stress has a negative effect. How we handle the stress determines the severity of the its effect. This is where our attitude comes in. A person with a negative attitude will be more apt to worry about the outcome of the situation. If there is one thing I have learned, it is this:
If we are worrying, then we are not thinking.
If we are not thinking, then we are not planning
If we are not planning, then we are not searching for a solution to the problem.
Stop worrying. Start thinking. We must ask ourselves these questions. What is the worst that can happen? How likely is it to happen? How can I prevent it from happening? What can I do to soften the effects? Would seeking help be beneficial? Is there anything else I can do? Asking questions and finding answers is how we start the process of solving our problem. If we are thinking then we are not worrying. It’s alright to be apprehensive. We all get apprehensive. But, we cannot let it control us. Stay focused on the positive. We see what we are focused on, whether it’s positive or negative. If we are focused on the negative things, then that is what we will see.
There is an old Irish saying that states; what fills the eyes, fills the soul. There is a lot of truth in this saying. If we constantly watch drama TV, we will become desensitized to it. We will come to expect to see it, and our way of thinking will change. We will expect drama as a natural part of life. If we listen to music with explicit lyrics, it will reflect in our thoughts and behavior. It was once said that we are a product of our environment. We absorb everything around us. That is our nature. The best way to think of it is like this. Suppose there is a sponge deep in mud. Now, every pore is filled with this soft thick mud that oozes everywhere. This sponge is a pure reflection of its environment. If we take this muddy sponge and place it in a small babbling spring we would notice that a lot of the mud would wash off. However there would still be some mud caked on the inside and in certain areas. The fact is, the longer the sponge stays in that water the less mud it will retain. With enough time all of the mud would be washed out. We are like this sponge.
So, let’s go back to the original statement. What makes for a good day as opposed to a bad day? Our positive attitude sets us in the right direction. Stress management will help us maintain our focus. The environment that we have surrounded ourselves with supports our positive attitude. If something does go wrong, react, but react professionally. It’s not the end of the world. We will get through it. Life will go on and we will see brighter days. And, most importantly don’t forget to smile, even if it’s only on the inside. This is how we have good days.